To get to university you have had to leave behind a momentous time in your life, which is often difficult for everyone: adolescence. Now, you are in a totally different stage of personal growth in every way. In this post we’ve put together some tips to help you gain self-confidence, and earn people’s trust while you’re at university.
How to gain self-confidence
There are many tips on how to gain confidence in yourself, but these are five ideas that we consider fundamental to achieve it.
Love yourself as you are
If you look around you, you can be sure of one thing: you will always find someone more handsome, smarter, with more money and fortune in life. But you, with all of your strengths and weaknesses, are a unique and special being. There are no others like you in this world!
Listen and learn from others
The previous advice is not incompatible with cultivating the ability to listen and learn from others. Self-confidence cannot turn into stubbornness and closure, so have the humility to take note of the virtues of others and try to integrate them into your own personality. In fact, we are constantly learning and evolving, so the underlying idea of these first two tips can be summarised using the following phrase: “Don’t compare yourself with others, compare yourself with the person you were yesterday.”
When pessimism and negativity prevail, it is impossible to gain self-confidence. But those who think positively always show more self-confidence. That does not prevent them from failing , because no one is free from it, but it allows them to get back up faster and with greater determination.
Don’t push yourself too hard
In youth we tend to think that things are final, but as time goes on, you realise that there is nothing immutable. What may seem like an irremediable failure at the time, in the long run is just a stumbling block and often where many lessons can be learned. And the same thing happens to the contrary: even if you think you are on top of the world, you must be prepared for an eventual bad streak, which you’ll also learn valuable lessons from.
Set realistic and achievable goals
Being a dreamer is not a bad thing as dreams serve as a beacon and guide in life. The problem arises when you set unattainable and unrealistic goals, which can leave you feeling like you’re constantly failing.. On the other hand, with achievable and realistic goals it is easier to gain self-confidence, since the feeling will be the opposite and you gain success from meeting objectives.
Tips to gain a person’s trust
All of the above tips have one primary goal: to overcome a lack of self-confidence. But there is no doubt that it’s also important to cultivate the trust of others, especially your true friends. And even more so at university, which is probably the most social time of your life.
That’s why we’ve given you these extra tips on how to earn a person’s trust. You must take them within your own context and in their proper measure, because it is not good to fall into the excessive desire to please others. Be yourself to gain the trust of who you really care about.
- Sincerity – it’s a basic premise of any friendship and relationship between two people
- Respect – if you express yourself with sincerity but without respect, you will not earn the trust of another person.
- Selfless help – it is an action typical of a kind being, if you’re only helping to see a benefit for yourself then people will struggle to trust you.
- Recognition – celebrating other people’s achievements and being honest enough to own up to your mistakes can help you be a respectable and exemplary person. The one that every good partner would like to have by his side!
All these tips are valid in almost all circumstances, but even more so if you live in Collegiate, where we work hard to bring you an environment that is always conducive to gaining self-confidence. With us, you will find the perfect combination between necessary intimacy and a rich social life.